Today is my parent’s 26th wedding anniversary. Early morning I called them and gave my well wishes. I started for office but all the way I was remembering the stories I heard from my parents and grandparents about how their marriage got fixed and how it took place.
Now I and most of my friends are in the age, where our parents are worried about our marriage. But search and selection process for the groom/bride is very much different than what it was some 20 years back. I thought, let me share my views about the changes seen in arranged marriage process from yesterday to today on my blog. So here’s my view on Shadi aaj kal. :)
Shadi Kal: Selection or rejection of boy/girl was based on their photo given for marriage proposal.
Shadi Aaj: Selection or rejection of boy/girl is not based on just their photo. As with the help of new software any one can look awesome in photo. (Now a day’s even swami ji says that the video is morphed :), then what’s there in a photo :P)
Shadi Kal: First face to face meeting of boy and girl was in their mandap at the time of wedding.
Shadi Aaj: Boy and girl can’t even think of marriage without meeting in person.
Shadi Kal: No dating, orkut, facebook, email, Gmail, chatting, tweeting, texting, and phone calls before marriage.
Shadi Aaj: dating, orkut, facebook, email, Gmail, chatting, tweeting, texting, and phone calls continue for 2 to 3 week, as a process of data collection which will help in decision making.
Shadi Kal: Girl should cook very well. She should be master in all homely work.
Shadi Aaj: Girl should earn very well. She should be ready to pay half of her salary to the home maid.
Shadi Kal: You can find the perfect bride/groom through your pandit or relative’s network.
Shadi Aaj: Your perfect bride/groom is just a click away. Thanks to so many matrimonial sites.
Shadi Kal: Father wants to know daughter’s opinion about the boy, for which the shy girl makes a hole on floor with her toe and says “Whatever you feel right is ok with me”. :D
Shadi Aaj: Before father gives his opinion about the boy, girl says “Dad, the guy doesn’t have six-packs and he earns only 1L/month. I feel we should look for some more options.”
Shadi Kal: A reason to reject the girl “Yaar, she loves someone else”.
Shadi Aaj: A reason to reject the girl "Dude, she told she is a lesbian :( "
PS: At last, how much ever changes we see in the searching and selection process of bride/groom, still the secret behind a successful marriage is same throughout the years. Empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern is common among all the successful marriages of aaj and kal. :)
Do share your views or any personal experience about the same on comments :D